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Love & Respect

My sister in law had been raving about a book she was reading called Love and Respect.  I thought it sounded really interesting…then forgot about it.  But GOD didn’t.  In less than 48 hours I overheard or saw six references to the book.  I am slow, but not that slow.  I realized GOD was trying to tell me something.  So, last Friday, I picked up the book…and broke out in tears.

Mr. Red Hot and I have a great marriage. At least that is how we each assess it.  He is my best friend.  I am his best friend. We love to hang out with each other.  Our marriage has weathered lightening strikes, annoying extended family, home renovation, strokes, Cerebral Palsy, Autism, and most recently a three month bout with Menengitis.

We do have our “communication gaps” though.  You may know what I am talking about here.  You say “X”.  He hears “Y”.  Next thing you know, both of you are mad as hornets, wondering what just happened.  If this never happens at your house…WOW!  Go write a book and I will buy it.  Because this happens at my house more than I care for.  If you are familiar with the XY cycle, I wholeheartedly recommend Love & Respect. 

Be warned.  This book is not for the faint (OR HARD) of heart. There are entire chapters you might cry through.  I have.  But a hallmark of the Red Hot Momma is courage.  She can admit when she is wrong. She is wise, leaning on GOD, not her own understanding of things. Learning new behaviors and pass them on to those around her. Sharing the wealth. Reaping the benefits along the way. 

This Red Hot Momma is pleased to report that there are definite benefits to reap.  Immediately.  We are both much happier than we even thought we could be, after one week.  I have seen a fire in his eyes.  A glow to him that I haven’t seen in far too long.  And that has meant more love and affection for me. 

So I challenge all Hot Momma’s to go out and get the book Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.  Let me know what you think…