This Red Hot Momma has just celebrated the one year mark of the kid free bed. I really never intended to co sleep. I think that is the politically correct term. It just happened.
Our first baby started out in the bassinet. Soon, though I can’t remember exactly when, he ended up in the middle of our king sized bed. We all slept better. Until he was around two. He was, as all little kids are, miserable to sleep with. Despite having an adequate sized sleeping space, Mr. and Mrs. Red Hot found themselves clinging to the edges of the mattress. Praying for the morning to hurry up and come already.
Enter baby number two. We have a few photos of him sleeping in his bassinet. Otherwise I would not believe it had ever happened. He fit right in to the snug bed. We adjusted and grumbled. Still the will to remedy the situation was absent. Until a year and a half later.
Enter baby number three. Five was a number we were not willing to maneuver. The oldest went to his own bed. The middle went to a toddler bed. The baby went to the bassinet. It lasted one night. Two tops. Baby number two, now a toddler made his way into our bed around midnight. Baby number one, now bigger than a few of his grandparents came in around three a.m. After years and years of the nightly rotation into and out of our bed, Mrs. Red Hot had enough. Everyone sleeps in his own bed. All night.
Having the bed to ourselves once again was amazing. A kid free zone! We would lie in our big bed and watch Family Guy. Eating ice cream or reading to one another. It became my favorite time of the day. Still is.
Lot’s of new Red Hot Momma’s wrestle with should we or shouldn’t we put the baby in bed with us. I have mixed feelings. I absolutely adored my babies in bed with us. The world just felt right. Snuggled in bed with the man l loved. The product (or products :)) of our love lying peacefully between us. I would not trade anything for those memories. I also love it being just the two of us. In fact, having a time that is just “ours” has been revitalizing for our marriage. Not to mention how much better rested I am now, compared to then.
So looking back…Yes. I would do it all just the same again. But, I am so glad I don’t have to! :) Good Night!