Tales From the gym

Red Hot Momma’s are always being confronted with new situations.  We assess the situation and make adjustments where needed.  We find a way to make things work.  I dare say problem solving is the Red Hot’s best skill. 

But…(and isn’t there always a “but”) even we have our moments of where we just want to run hide in the closet.  I think that going to the gym is one of the most trying times in a woman’s life.  Most of us spend way too long in the restroom, tugging and stretching on our workout clothes.  Psyching ourselves up to walk into a hotbed of beautiful, toned, tanned bodies.  (Can I get an Amen?)  It takes great courage to take our fluffier selves into the middle of what appears to be a super model photo shoot everyday. 

This Red Hot Momma pumps her music really loud in her ears, closes her eyes, and asks the LORD to give her the courage and strength to do what she needs to do today.  She also gives herself a pep talk.  Mrs. Red Hot says things like “This is about you.  Not them.  Yes they are beautiful.  So are you.  GOD loves you all equally.  You can do it!  You are worth the effort!”.

Once immersed in our own fitness routine, our confidence returns.  We are worth it!  We feel awesome!  Look out world!  Until a size 1 woman, who happens to be our age, sits down on the machine beside us.  She is fabulous looking and blowing us a way on the rowing machine. 

 Red Hot Momma’s are tempted to feel jealous.  This is where the rubber meets the road of Christianity.  We capture the thought and dissect it.  Often at the root of jealousy is fear.  Fear that we do not measure up. Pardon the pun.  Fear that maybe the world is right, our value lies in our looks and we will never be enough.  Fear that we lack something that every other woman has or has figured out how to get.

So if anyone out there can relate, here is a simple soulution.  Pray.  Pray for GOD to change our heart.  Pray for Miss Size 1.  She needs prayers too. Chances are she is feeling just as inadequate as we are in some area.  

 Ask the LORD to remind us we are all on the same team.  Fighting the real enemy, the world and it’s master, not one another.  Carry this truth with you today, Red Hot Momma.  You are loved by the King.  He thinks you are beautiful.  Just the way you are, right now.  So do I.

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12 Responses to “Tales From the gym”

  1. December 8, 2008 at 3:43 pm

    Awesome advice for anyone, not just women!

    Don’t forget thou that size 1 woman quite possibly doesn’t have a husband who truly appreciates her… and which would you prefer, the ‘perfect’ body now or a husband who will find you sexy however you look?

  2. 2 Renee
    December 8, 2008 at 4:33 pm

    As that size 1 woman, I can guarantee you that we have the same insecurities walking out into the gym. We know that we are being stared at and judged just like everyone else…only not like everyone else because that ‘size 1 woman’ is treated like a pariah and a stereotype and treated as though she could not possibly understand insecurity. She is a real woman. She has feelings and needs grace and the understanding that she, too, should not be judged for how God created her. She, too, needs to be seen as more than a size.

    And PeterP, we have just as good of a chance of having a husband that truly appreciates us for who we are and need that just as desperately as any other woman.

  3. 3 Renee
    December 8, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    One more thing, PeterP…just to be clear. I have a husband who appreciates me for who I am and has found my body beautiful and sexy through 3 pregnancies where I gained anywhere from 40-65 pounds, 3 years of nursing, and in between each. He sees me as his wife and as the woman God created me to be. He has never seen my size as making my body perfect. He has seen the woman inside me as making the body on the outside perfet despite any size or shape. I pray that every woman finds such husband, it is truly a blessing.

  4. December 8, 2008 at 9:41 pm

    Hi Renee,

    I’m sorry if I offended you. I didn’t mean to suggest that a size 1 woman couldn’t find true love, I was trying to suggest that size doesn’t matter and that it’s easy to look at a skinny woman and assume that her life must be perfect when that may not be the case.

    Please accept my apologies.


  5. December 8, 2008 at 10:45 pm


    I am so sorry if I have offended you.

    I wasn’t trying to suggest that someone cannot be slim and have a great husband.

    The reality is that many people do not have great relationships and the point I was trying to make is that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Just because someone is slim, that does not automatically mean their life is perfect.

    Please accept my apologies for any offense caused.


  6. December 9, 2008 at 1:50 am

    I meet all types of women with all types of insecurities. Good job with blocking out the world and getting the job done in the gym.
    Natasha Linton

  7. 7 Renee
    December 9, 2008 at 2:22 am

    Thank you, Peter, for you apology. It demonstrates a lot of integrity and compassion to apologize for an offense that you never intended.

    To be fair, nobody’s life is perfect. We live in a fallen and broken world, and only through Christ is there any hope for perfection. You can look at anyone through a the perception of envy and only see that one part of their life that you may wish that you had — their size, their wealth, their children, their happy marriage, their health, their wisdom, their age, their popularity, etc., and that envy too easily turns into a scorn for that other person.

    There is a fine line between acknowledging that the other person is also a creation of God and ridding yourself of the destructive scorn that you inflict on the other person with — sometimes unintentionally and with an unknowing smile. The object of that scorn didn’t do anything to deserve the poor treatment or the purposeful distance created in a possible friendship. In this situation, both parties need prayer. The envious for forgiveness, acceptance of their circumstances or the strength to change them if possible and the object for patience, understanding and the ability forgive.

  8. December 9, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    Thank you for that perspective in that situation. Something I hadn’t really thought of.

  9. 9 Anonymous
    December 10, 2008 at 7:40 am

    I can pray for Miss Size 1… until she asks if I know that being overweight is a sin. Then, unfortunately, I secretly start wishing that her thyroid malfunctions. Another sin. (Sigh.)

  10. 10 Renee
    December 10, 2008 at 3:44 pm

    Julianna, thank you for taking a look from a different perspective. Most people aren’t willing to do that. I wish you much success in walking tall and confidently the next time you go to the gym.

    Anonymous, Wow! Would someone really say that? I’ll secretly wish with you that her thyroid malfunctions…at least temporarily…or that she, too, can see things from a new perspective.

  11. 11 Anonymous
    December 11, 2008 at 12:47 am

    It really happened. But not at the gym,…at church.

  12. 12 motorcyclegrandmalinda
    December 15, 2008 at 12:00 am

    So many times people are judging us by our looks and do not even know us or anything about us. I know for over a year I keep getting “are you sick? you have lost so much weight”. I really have not lost a lot of weight…just around 20# in a year and a half, but have been watching closer what I eat for health reasons. I still eat a lot I shouldn’t though. I had gone down to a size 4/6 about a year ago and have been there for that long now, but still get those comments. Even by people I see every few weeks or so. It does start to make you wonder and make you think about what others are seeing and I think we all have these body images that the TV and movies have given out. The important message is to make sure you are healthy…see your doctor; and to keep in touch with the Great Physician to keep in tune with your Spiritual needs. He will help you see in the mirror more clearly.

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